How Long Should I Meditate For?
A friend recently called me to tell me that he had been reading about the scientific benefits of mindfulness. He was experiencing increased stress at work and at home, and hoped that mindfulness and meditation methods might be able to help. He wanted to ask me for some advice about starting a steady meditation practice. I was happy to help, and one of the questions that kept recurring in our conversation was how long to meditate for.
Different teachers give different answers about this question. Some say to start with fifteen, twenty, or thirty minutes. For myself, right now, I try to sit for at least forty five minutes consecutively every day. But giving a specific number to him to achieve didn’t feel like a good answer to his question nor an accurate description of helpful meditation methods.
Instead of telling him a specific amount of time that he should aim to meditate for, I shared an experience I had when I first became interested in exercise and fitness. I wasn’t especially fit, and I hoped to change that. A number of my friends — who were notably more fit than I was — raved about CrossFit. So I went for my first session. It was challenging and exhausting, but also fun. I did sprints, my first burpees, and other exercises. Afterwards, my body hurt like it had never hurt before, and I was so tired that I almost fell asleep in my college classes — something that had never before happened to me.
I could see that if I kept going, CrossFit would help me get in shape very quickly. So I went back for a few more sessions. Eventually, though, I stopped going. The trouble was that it took an immense amount of willpower for me to go. It was extremely efficient, but it wasn’t sustainable for me. I simply wasn’t willing to exercise if it was going to be that hard and that exhausting.
Later, I started a different exercise regimen, the Couch to 5K running program. My first Couch to 5K workout was mostly walking. The longest I had to run for was 60 seconds at a time, and then I could take a walking break for a minute and a half. It was completely achievable for me — almost too easy. But the fact that it was so easy meant that it took very little willpower to do the next workout — and the next, and the next, for nine weeks, until I could run for thirty minutes straight. This was, for me, a really big success.
What does this have to do with determining how long to meditate? For many meditators, a common goal is to sit for twenty to sixty minutes a day. Additionally, it becomes increasingly important to try to practice your meditation methods throughout the rest of the day. Many meditators also aim to attend one or more week-long retreats each year. I imagined that if I told my friend he should aim for those things, it might feel overwhelming and impossible. And even if he tried to do that right away, he risked burning out and dropping meditation entirely.
The Couch to 5K program gives new runners two months or more to be work up to being able to run for thirty minutes straight—I think this is a good model for beginning meditators to follow when faced with the question of how long to meditate too.
What you’re really doing when you start meditating is creating a habit. You don’t need to start with long meditation sessions. Your goal should be to make meditation a regular, normal part of your life. Once it’s something you do regularly, you can work up to sitting every day and determining for yourself how long to meditate. Once you sit every day, you can work up to more advanced meditation methods and sitting for increasingly long amounts of time—only if you so choose! Just like the 5K training program, a sustainable meditation practice is all about finding what is right for you and your lifestyle.
Accordingly, I told my friend that his answer to how long to meditate could be answered by recognizing the amount of time that he was willing to sit for. Maybe this means starting with five or ten minutes, and maybe rather than sitting every day right away, he would feel more comfortable with a meditation method that started with two or three times a week. As Shinzen says: “It’s all good.” Just like with running, if you can keep a pace that you’re comfortable with, after two or three months, you might be able to sit for thirty minutes or more at a time. And, a few months after that, you might even adapt your meditation methods to be able to sit once every day. After all: slow and steady wins the race!